Much has been written on soul mates and though many have tried to explain and describe what they are, it’s still a relatively difficult thing to put into words. In folklore, the story goes that when a soul descends to earth, it splits into two – each half of the soul inhabiting a separate body. These two people are forever ‘soul mates’ and will spend their lives seeking one another.
Do soul mates really exist? Many, including myself, would hazard to say yes. So other than what folk legends describe, how is a soul mate defined? A soul mate is a person with whom you have an immediate connection so strong and indescribable that you know you have never felt anything like it before. As the connection grows over time you experience a love so complex, strong and profound, you begin to question if you've ever truly loved anyone before they came along.
Soul mates are the key to your lock, while possessing the lock to the key that you yourself hold. It’s an unexplained draw… a feeling that you have met a piece of your own heart; the person you were bound by destiny to find and with whom to merge your life. When you meet it’s as though you’ve met before…the connection is instant and easy. You just get each other. The connection is also usually incredibly intense; a feeling like you’ve come home.
The soul mate bond is difficult to break, even during tough times, because you both love each other exactly as you each are and can accept (and even love) one another’s flaws and shortcomings, and you actually embrace them. You feel a deep sense of love and respect for each other and don’t feel a need (nor a pressure) to change for the other person. The energetic connection between soul mates is incredibly strong and they often feel so linked together that they’re able to intuit one another’s emotions, moods and thoughts. It could be said that soul mates are mentally inseparable, not unlike twins. They usually also feel like they can face anything life throws at them as long as they have the other by their side in the journey.
Soul mates relationships are deeply cerebral and spiritual sanctuaries where one feels a deep sense of protection, security and unity, making it incomprehensible to imagine life without them. A soul mate is someone worth fighting for - someone for whom you would do anything. They are the love of your life and your best friend. They feel like an extension of you. A soul mate is someone who lights up our insides, challenges us and helps us to see our hidden gifts and potential, often at times when we are unable to see it within ourselves.
So are soul mates born or cultivated? I believe in both. By deepening the connection you have with your partner through (mutual) personal growth and commitment to one another and your relationship, you can build a solid foundation with a unified goal of overcoming any challenges that present themselves, together. This is the sign of a true partnership, and with this type of bond comes a deepening of trust, love, intuition and soul connection. You are able to understand and connect in every way and on every level, bringing about a sense of peace, calmness and happiness when you are around them – and even when you are apart.
Being open to signs, people and energies around us allows us to connect with the magic of heart and soul connections waiting to find us and be found. Loving another with every cell of your being can be one of the roughest roads to journey down, but also one of the most fulfilling, and can lead to the most beautiful of places – found both within ourselves and with our partners.