Book Spotlight & Author Interview - Dr. Judy Ho, Author of The New Rules of Attachment: How to Heal Your Relationships, Reparent Your Inner Child, and Secure Your Life Vision

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Review coming June 13th

With warmth, authority, and a bias to action, The New Rules of Attachment is a call to achieving unconditional self-love and a meaningful, joyful life.

Synopsis -

Discover a revolutionary approach to attachment theory that teaches readers how to heal their inner child to change their anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachment style in relationships, friendships, at work, and home—perfect for readers of How to Do the Work, Polysecure, and Amir Levine’s Attached.

Did you know that attachment style impacts more than romantic relationships? As it turns out, most of us are thinking about Attachment Theory all wrong, and triple board-certified clinical and forensic neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho is here to set the record straight.

Grounded in the science of attachment, Dr. Judy’s game-changing approach shows that our attachment style impacts every aspect of our lives: friendships, career, goal setting, and, critically, our sense of self. Moreover, we can all learn to become securely attached—no matter what attachment style we developed in childhood—meaning that we can reclaim our ability to feel safe, loved, and capable of achieving the life we’ve always wanted.

Through Dr. Judy’s innovative program, readers will learn to identify their attachment style, recognize their core needs and wounds, and implement evidence-based practical tools to heal their inner child as they develop the secure attachment we all need to thrive.

Readers will also benefit from:
  • A new attachment style quiz to identify your attachment style in all areas of life.
  • A personalized approach that allows you to start making positive change today.
  • More than two dozen transformative exercises to support your journey to healing.
Interview - 

Can you share a bit about your journey to become a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, a tenured associate professor, and television and podcast host?

I was first inspired to go into the field of psychology in high school when I was part of the Big Brother Big Sister program. I realized the kind of profound impact one person can have on another just by showing up, being present, and listening and validating their concerns. I have been very blessed that I’ve been able to become a neuropsychologist and tenured professor, as well as being able to share my expertise in TV, podcasts, and media in general. I think it is so important to demystify mental health and to clear up misconceptions, as well as let people know how it is always possible to heal at any age. My background in performing arts (have been performing in show choirs, a capella group plays, musical theater, orchestra, bands) since a young age likely helps me to translate more complex information for lay people as a public speaker and in front of an audience.

You have now published 2 books - Stop Self-Sabotage (2019) and the just released New Rules of Attachment (2024). What inspired you to turn your focus to writing books?

I love writing and have always enjoyed reading, and I wanted to make this complex information more digestible to people who are looking for ways to help themselves and actualize into their best selves. I really enjoy the writing process and trying to put myself in their shoes as the reader: What would they want to learn, and what would make this practical for them to improve their everyday lives?

How does the writing process work for you? What do you enjoy most about the writing process or comes easily to you? What feels most like a chore - a struggle?

I really like having an organized way of writing, and no matter how I feel on a given day, if I’ve set aside time for writing, I just sit down and try to see what comes to me. I try not to edit myself at first and just write what comes to me. The most difficult part is when you sit there and feel like you have no inspiration! But I am a strong believer that you can’t wait for inspiration or else you’ll miss deadlines. So I just make myself sit there and read research to prep for my writing, or to write an outline even if I can’t write prose, etc., to make the most of my time.

Your latest book - New Rules of Attachment - talks about attachment theory? Can you give readers a simple overview of what that is?

Attachment theory is about the most crucial bonds we have with our primary caregivers beginning in infancy. Without their support, we simply cannot survive. Our relationships with these primary caregivers set the stage for what we believe about ourselves, whether we believe others will show up when we need them, and whether we believe good things should and can happen to us. This is why it’s so important to work on any attachment wounds as their impact is still felt all throughout our lives, even as adults.

What is the one most important thing you hope readers will take away from reading this book?

No matter what happened to you in your childhood, how long you’ve been operating with your default system, or how much disappointment you’ve experienced – it’s never too late to heal your insecure attachment wounds and achieve the life you’ve dreamed of.

What would you most like readers to know about you?

I love sharing resources and tips through my social media, newsletters and website! So come find me @drjudyho and at

Is there anything you'd like to share in closing?

Yes! I have a TEDx talk about attachment and how it influences our self image that just debuted. 

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